Do you have a child that puts no effort in every task they are told to do? Are you out of ideas on how to motivate them? Well, let me be your MOTIVATION….
Motivation is the reason or reasons a person has for acting or behaving a certain way. Kids are never intentionally lazy. They don’t wake up to be lazy bums and humiliate parents. It very important to motivate your children as young as possible. As parents, we need to make sure we are motivating ourselves. They are always watching and learning motivational skills from us. Make sure we are using skills and techniques that they can use as they grow into successful people. Always use supportive motivating techniques. Refrain from negative name calling. Don’t put those negative vibes in your child’s mind or spirit. I have provided 4 helpful tips that helped me motivate my child.
- Create a plan that helps motivate. #GOALS
It’s hard not to become angry at a lazy child, especially knowing their potential. The truth is, most kids are highly motivated. Most of the things that motivate them are their phones, video games, dancing, tv, shopping, etc. Sit down and help them write out their goals. Goals are important to set in life; they are the fuel to your dreams. The joy of achieving goals makes kids feel excellent. Aren’t you excited when you receive the memo that you broke the sale goal at work, or you won employee of the month? Kids feel the same way so allow them to enjoy the celebration of success. Remember that pressuring children to get them motivated only makes things worse. The give and take rule is always helpful with motivating children. This plan usually works because it’s the same way with adults. We put in work and expect pay, so children want to be rewarded when they work. Doing or saying things like, “If you read for 30 thirty minutes, I will give you 30 minutes of tv time” Or “If you clean the kitchen after dinner, you can play video games until bed time.”
- Watch for signs and keep an open line of communication with children.
Everyone’s view on lazy differs from person to person, therefore motivation comes differently to everyone. Children may never openly express that they don’t feel motivated. It is the parents’ job to watch for signs. The child may show a change in behavior, lack of interest in activities or sports, or they may even show signs of depression. It is important to make sure we don’t assume our children are lazy. Refrain from calling the child lazy. Sit down regularly and allow them to talk. Listen and allow them to express how they feel.
- Teach balance and use other sources if needed to maintain motivation.
When your child vents issues and you can’t help, don’t feel defeated. Reach out for counseling or research tools to succeed. It’s important to recognize and work diligently on the child’s motivation. Kids should be given a workable, but realistic system of to-dos or chores. Spending time reviewing and going over what is expected is very helpful with children. Even expectations of their school work. Children may need a plan written down to visualize it. Let the child assist with creating a schedule.
Always notice the good. Verbal praise and tangible rewards are always good. When the child doesn’t complete a specific chore, explain how things need to be done. Give feedback on what is expected and explain consequences.
I have firsthand experience with trying to motivate my own daughter. Destiny, my 15-year-old rising sophomore, wants to become a model. She has struggled with maintaining good grades and working around the house. I took time and motivated her during a mini photo shoot in our front yard (pictured above). I used this tactic to get her excited about what lies ahead if she pushes and stop procrastinating. Find things to get children motivated about their goals. Always push them into greatness.
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